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Saturday, May 26, 2012

ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN VOICE

People are watching us. They
know that we know God and they
wonder what that really means.
They may not know the Bible, but
they know us- our reactions to
difficulty, our responses to sin,
our attitude towards others, our
level of integrity. Our coworkers
are watching how thoroughly we
live what we profess. Our
neighbors are studying whether
our faith makes our home any
different from theirs.
We are building a reputation for
God. God's servant Daniel had
served Him well, and he was
known as the man to go to when
the nations' wise men could not
discern His mysteries. People had
been watching. They knew that
Daniel knew God. We have to be
certain that people see the God in
us and not just hear it coming out
of our mouths.
Lord let us represent you well in
our relationships, marriages and
lives.
READ Daniel 5

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

BEST WAY TO MANAGE ANGER

 TEMPER CONTROL

We all at one point or the other had been angry, maybe because of what someone did to us or even because of what we did and am sure we all know what anger is, and we've all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full- fledged rage.


Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. This little story is meant to help you understand and control anger.

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper.
His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every
time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell
his father that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the
fence. He said “you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.”

NOTE:
You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still
there. Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later.
ALWAYS KEEP UR WORDS SOFT & SWEET..

HOW TO UNDERSTAND GOD

: : BASED ON A TRUE STORY : :
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A man was thinking so hard about the complicity of the word of God.
He decided to take a walk along the beach, as he thought.
Along the beach, he found a young boy who had made a
hole, the size of the cup he was holding, and was using the
cup to fetch water from the ocean, and pour it in the hole.

The man looked at he boy and told him, 'what do u think
you are doing little one?'

The boy replied, ' i want to fetch all the water in this ocean, and pour it in this hole. I want to dry the ocean.' the man looked at the boy and told him, ' u will never achieve that since this is sand, and before u go back to the ocean to fetch more water, the water u had poured in the hole will have drained back to the ocean.' the little boy looking at him and told him, ' that is how the word of God is.

No matter how hard you try to think about it, u will never understand. It is too complex for human brain, and only God can make you understand it.'

MORAL: God will send you an angel to help you, and the angel might come in a any form e.g. A child.

DON’T TAKE OFF YOUR UNDERWEAR

 A MUST READ FOR ALL

I came across this touching and interesting post on the internet today and I feel the need to share it with all my esteem readers, it is a story all guys and ladies must read, it is meant especially for ladies but the story of this lady won't have ended the way it ended if both parties involve really took the time to weigh the consequences of their act. Please share with all the ladies in your life so they don't have an ending like the story we are about reading now.

   LADIES IN THE HOUSE!!!

I TOOK OFF MY UNDERWEAR!

I used to be that innocent girl who had the world at her feet. I was beautiful and I had eyes and hips that could make men sway, and to top it all up, I was a Christian, a very good Christian with a heart burning for God. When I entered the university, I met a guy, his name was Derrick. I couldn’t believe my luck the first time I bumped into him on my way to class, he had such a kind smile and a tender look that weakened my knees when he spoke.

Because I was late for class we couldn’t talk much but barely three weeks later, I met him at the fresher’s night party and I was overwhelmed. We got talking and I found out that he was in his second year and from that night, we
became an inseparable pair. At first, we were friends and as months passed by, we got closer and closer and the chemistry between us was undeniable.

About a year after I entered the university, Derrick and I started dating. He was everything a girl could ever want and desire save the fact that he wasn’t so much of a Christian. Derrick had magical hands that made him hard to resist and most times I fell for it. At first, I felt bad but when I couldn’t help falling into the same pit I killed the guilt on my inside. And then one day, one of my friends said I was getting fatter and that got me thinking and in the process I began to link the dots…first I had a vomiting spree every morning which I thought was due to a flu and then I had this morning sickness which I felt was due to stress and then my missing period…oh no it can’t be possible I said to myself, I couldn’t be pregnant!!!

After a series of test outside school, I realized the deadliest truth, I was indeed pregnant. I was only nineteen, I still had a whole life ahead of me, what was I going to do. I couldn’t tell my parents, they wouldn’t hear of it. I had to go to Derrick to tell him what I had found out. On telling him, I saw him fly into a temper I had never seen in my life. He was so hysterical, calling me all sorts of names and I didn’t even know when I started crying heart drenching tears of hurt and betrayal. When he looked into my eyes he must have realized how scared and hurt I was and so he pulled me close and ran his hands through my hair until I had calmed down and then he said to me in the most subtle voice ever ” why don’t you have an abortion”. I pulled back instantly, I couldn’t have an abortion! But when he talked about my parents and the sanctioning of the school and the fellowship which I belonged to, I knew I had no other choice.

Derrick had made all the arrangements and so on the supposed day we went to the room- like clinic. I shivered all through my way there but Derrick kept telling me that it would be okay and that he was proud that I made such a brave decision. When I entered into the room where the abortion was supposed to take place I laid down on the table trying to dissociate my mind from what I was about to do and then a young man told me sternly, ” you know I can’t perform this procedure with your underwear on” and then I began to pull it off. As I did this a sense of guilt overwhelmed me, first I had pulled off my underwear of pleasure and now I was pulling it off to get rid of the stigma the pleasure had brought…what a shame, I felt so exposed.

All through the times that I felt instruments coming in and out of me, I kept thinking of the lady I had become and the hypocrite I had transformed into. I let out a sigh, only if I can get through this I muttered… only if…and then I felt a sharp pain pierce through the whole of my body, I screamed but then the doctor told me to be quiet. I felt another pain but this time I bit my lip and then the pain began to come in successions. I instinctively knew that something was wrong but I was too weak to talk or to move and then I heard the voices of Derrick and the doctor talking about the fact that I was bleeding excessively. The pain was so unbearable and I could feel myself getting weaker and
weaker. With the last strength in me, I pleaded with God ”Oh Lord I’m so sorry for taking my under wears off, please forgive me. ” and I drifted into a world where the pain seemed less hurtful and the voices seemed more distant.

Friends, our bodies are the temple of the Lord…Do not take off your underwear when the time is not right. Lots of girls who gained admission into the university as virgins eventually lost it so cheaply to guys who have nothing to do with their destinies. In a bid to get a certificate, they sold out a destiny that certificate cannot guarantee.

Friends, permit me to say it for the umpteenth time, even if you have lost your virginity, you can become chaste again! Record a period of virginity from a particular time till marriage and in the presence of God, you are as chaste as someone who has known no man because you have chosen to honor Him again despite your past.

Virtuous women aren’t in bed with their fiancĂ© right now. If he is sleeping with you…he’s sleeping with others. Yup, you are not the only one. A boyfriend, even a long term one is STILL not a husband. Too many women are giving boyfriends husband privileges! We keep losing what is rightfully ours because we keep messing with what’s not ours. There is just something classy about a woman who can control her emotions! Many have been laid on the slab of abortion, yet they keep involving in activities that will take them back on that slab! Risking it all!

Please, DON’T TAKE OFF YOUR UNDERWEAR!; any man who has not signed his life to you is not worth it!

Remember to share with all the ladies you care so much in your life, you might be helping another helpless lady out of her situation.

Monday, September 12, 2011

Learning to Develop an Intense Focus


Becoming side tracked is a part of life, and while this can be a serious problem when we want to complete some important task, distraction is simply a fact of life. It is important to learn how to deal with distraction and keep your focus so that you can finish the job you set out to do in the first place.

Distractions may be hard to ignore, especially when it's a chatty coworker, a ringing phone, a demanding spouse, or many other things. Thankfully, there are some tried and true strategies we can use to put the distractions on hold and place an intense focus on our task.

Distractions can come in a number of different forms. For instance it might be an over-talkative coworker, a demanding spouse, a video game, or any number of other items that we haven't mentioned here just yet.

If you want to develop an intense focus, try the following exercises:

Take Distractions out of your life. There are many different things that could be considered time-stealers. For instance you have your e-mail, you have Facebook, and perhaps even online games. There are ways to get rid of these, but you have to be 100% committed!

It's not going to be easy but, turn off your phone, close your web browser, and focus on the things you need to do.

Ready, Set, Commit! You more than likely know you have a task to complete, and you probably know that it is vital to get it done, but are you truly committed to getting it done? If not, then you need to get your priorities straight and commit yourself in your entirety. A lack of commitment will lead to you giving into distractions which is not acceptable in any case. If you are committed however, you will find that it is much easier to deal with those distractions.

Limit your Time. The task you're working on might not have a time limit, but that doesn't mean you should not assign one to it anyway. Set a specific time at which you want to be done, and then try to meet your goal.

There may be plenty of distractions going on around you, but you will be in a race to beat the clock, and there is a strong chance you won't be concentrating on much else aside from your work.

Take Breaks. If your mind becomes tired, you will find that you cannot work quite as efficiently as you did. You might finish your task, but how long will it really take to complete if you don't take a break? There is a strong chance that it will take way too long, and this is not something you want to deal with.

The best way to go about it is to work efficiently and with focus for about an hour, and then take a ten minute break. This might sound counterproductive and contrary to what you are trying to accomplish, but you won't accomplish anything if you are too tired to concentrate.

Make a list. If you want to accomplish something, it would be best for you to make a list of your objectives and cross them off as you accomplish each one. This will help you to mark your progress along with way, which will certainly help you to achieve your goals faster.

Reward yourself. You can offer yourself a reward of your choosing when you complete the task at hand.

By rewarding yourself, you will keep your focus and complete your goals in a much quicker manner.
You can keep your intense focus if you follow these steps and remember that you are only human. It won't be too long before you're accomplishing your goals and getting your work done on time. Just remember that it all depends on you!

Top 5 Habits Holding You Back … From Everything


The best learned lessons come not from your success, but from your failures. Actually, the biggest failure is not learning from your mistakes.

Mistakes come and go. But certain mistakes remain constant simply because you are circulating the same habits that perpetuate the same mistakes. Then you wonder, “What went wrong” or “Why does this always happen to me?”

The fact is most people turn a blind eye to the habits that cause them trouble. Mainly because they either don’t believe it’s a bad habit, or because they have nothing to put in its place. Humans dislike empty spaces.

So, to help you uncover your "blindspots" or habits that keep you from expanding to the best you can be, read these 5 habits that hold you back, and what you can do to overcome them.

1. Negative thinking. This encompasses everything from "stinkin’ thinkin" to "I am a total failure – useless." Any thought, idea or belief that says you cannot accomplish something is damaging to your quest.

Habit Adjustment: Rid yourself of all self-limiting beliefs. When you hear the voice in your head say, "You’re no good" or "You don’t have the skill for THAT," you need to talk back!

Exercise your free speech and contradict that voice until it begins to shut up. Soon you won’t hear it anymore. Then you will be able to focus on achieving and confidently move forward.

2. Procrastination. Everyone struggles with this. Putting things off is aka fear of failure. If you don’t do it in the first place, then nobody can say you failed, right? Procrastination is just another excuse for not moving, thinking or trying.
Habit Adjustment: Get clear on what is preventing you from plowing ahead. Yes, sometimes it requires a plow to get the momentum going. This take guts. You have to address honestly what is in your way, which may mean getting into the nitty gritty of what’s holding you back. What are you unwilling to face?

3. Not following through. Aka laziness. You become an information junkie who doesn’t put things into play. But you "feel good" because you KNOW what to do, yet you just don’t do it.

Habit Adjustment: Get some self-discipline. Take matters into your own hands and practice the cost/reward system. If you don’t get it done, there’s going to be a cost. If you get it done, then there’s going to be a reward. Make your list, and write out the costs and rewards. Circle the ones you can live with, and the ones you can’t live without.

4. Refusing to take advice. There is always someone who does it better and quicker with superior results. if you think you are too big or good to listen to valuable feedback, then you probably deserve to struggle just a bit longer.

Habit Adjustment: Put your pride in the bag and listen up! Find out who has successfully gone before you. Reach out to them. Ask for mentoring. Read the guru’s books. There is always some gold nugget or take away that you can use.
5. Being a victim. This is the pity party. You’re always a day late and a dollar short. Poor you. At least that’s what you’d like everyone to think because then no one will have any expectations of you.

Habit Adjustment: Snap out of it! No one likes to be around a self-proclaimed victim. Start to see yourself as the deserving person you are. Position yourself as an authority on something. Study, research, and learn what will get you from point A to Z – yes, you need to go all the way!

Study your habits – both the good and bad ones. What benefits are you getting from either? Yes, bad habits can have benefits. Unfortunately, they’re either short-term or unhealthy. Create and see the confidence, commitment and courage you were born with every day in the mirror. Tell yourself, "Yes, I have what it takes!"

How To Be Present When You Start Your Day


When we wake up in the morning, where do our thoughts go? Do they run to the things we have to do? Are they filled with memories of yesterday and worries for tomorrow? How we think and feel when we wake up has a lot to do with how we will perceive the day. If we can relax our mind in those waking moments, we will give ourselves time to wake up in a more natural way. If we forgo the thoughts of moments passed and those to come, we will remain present as we wake up. For before we get up, as we are still lying in bed, we have the ability to set the tone of our day with our thoughts and our emotions. All too often, our day is controlled by how we interact with ourselves in those waking moments.

Becoming Successful - How to Overcome Your Fear


If you have been taking action on making changes in your life, you've undoubtedly been interacting with this character, perhaps without ever having been formally introduced. He is the cautious follower, the one who knows all the rules and reminds you of them daily. He (or she for that matter) can be quite helpful at times, teaching you how to get along in life without being completely oblivious to how to interact with others and society. He's the guy who keeps you from sticking your hand on the stove when it's hot, or tongue on the pole when its freezing. Safety at all costs is his goal and over the years, he has been quite helpful to you.

However, by the time we hit our 30's, most of us are well aware of the dangers in life and need no further education in the ways of the world. We are resilient and can bounce back from failures, perceived or real. And yet, there your gremlin sits, day in and day out, just looking for opportunities to keep you safe. The gremlin aka the saboteur is a part of each of us.

For many, this helpful turned destructive character does not become noticeable until you become desirous of a change in your life. Perhaps you have decided to take a risk in your career, or share a deeper and more authentic side with your friends. That is when the gremlin can create havoc, whispering in your ear to stop before it is too late. She may even remind you of how safe it was to play in a small way, where everyone loves you and there is peace in the world. She hates change, instead loving the status quo. You may even get a sense of her in your stomach or heart, when you try to vocalize your dreams or goals. It's a reluctance to move forward, a warning deep within.

Once you realize where this obstacle is coming from, you can take steps to minimize the damage the gremlin plays.

1.Acknowledge that it exists. Don't try to pretend it isn't happening, the gremlin is relentless and will always win if you simply try to ignore it.

2.Practice Understanding. Once you know that the job of this character was to keep you safe, you no longer need to live under its unspoken rule.

3.Thank your gremlin. Visualize a conversation where you thank it for all of her help in keeping you safe, and let him know that you are in fact able to handle this situation without it's help.

4.Listen carefully to determine whether a fear is truly your own or if the gremlin is once again at work. Once you've begun to see your saboteur, it power begins to dissipate.